I took the train to New York recently. Time of departure was 9:46am. On my ride to the train station there was an abundance of traffic, so my estimated time to arrive at 9:20am was more like 9:30am. Did I make the train? Or did I almost miss it? Or both? It’s all about obsesrvations.
Read MoreI don’t care what you do! It doesn’t matter to me. Have you said this, either emphatically, or just as a matter of fact? When you reflect on the times you have said it, was it actually true, or is it something you said to protect yourself? Does it ever really hurt less because we announce our indifference?
Read MoreInterrupting sure does have a bad rap. I can easily understand why. Often, we are just hoping to shut someone up. Yet, I think it can be a useful and successful strategy to find connection.
Read MoreWhile the title is meant to amuse, the content is meant to contribute. We humans have filters --think colored glasses, that truly control what it is we see and what we don’t see in life --and our relationships. Typically, these filters are not 100% transparent to us, and we believe that what we see is all there is to see. Unfortunately this isn’t true and impacts are relationships remendously.
Read MoreNVC works. Maybe always. And I rarely use the word always. Let’s begin with the reminder that if you are ‘using’ Nonviolent Communication (NVC) to get what you want, isn’t actually NVC. It is something else.
Read MoreHas this happened to you? You clearly shared your point of view or asked for something and you find out later that what you said was completely misunderstood? Read on for all the ways to easily remedy this.
Read MoreIn general, conflict has a bad rap, something to be avoided. For many, literally to be avoided at all costs. Truthfully, the costs might be more than you anticipate or imagine.
Read MoreHow many times has this happened in your conversations? You say something and the other person gets upset. Your response is one of two: What did I do or say that caused this distress? (What’s wrong with me?) or; Why are they upset –being too sensitive? (What’s wrong with them?) Looking for someone to blame for the distress. Opting out of fault finding is essential for resolving painful conflict.
Read MoreAre you interested in finding love? Unless you are currently feeling resigned, I’m guessing you are a yes. Whether with a partner or inside your family relationships, friendships –anywhere really? You can find it almost everywhere.
Read More
