Posts tagged communication
I Don't Care

I don’t care what you do!  It doesn’t matter to me.  Have you said this, either emphatically, or just as a matter of fact?   When you reflect on the times you have said it, was it actually true, or is it something you said to protect yourself?  Does it ever really hurt less because we announce our indifference?

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Gefilter Fish

While the title is meant to amuse, the content is meant to contribute.  We humans have filters --think colored glasses, that truly control what it is we see and what we don’t see in life --and our relationships.  Typically, these filters are not 100% transparent to us, and we believe that what we see is all there is to see.  Unfortunately this isn’t true and impacts are relationships remendously.

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Heartbroken

How many times has this happened in your conversations?  You say something and the other person gets upset.  Your response is one of two:  What did I do or say that caused this distress? (What’s wrong with me?) or; Why are they upset –being too sensitive? (What’s wrong with them?)  Looking for someone to blame for the distress.  Opting out of fault finding is essential for resolving painful conflict.

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