Banging In the Night

Sharing my story about the noises in my wall to illustrate the meaning I’ve made and the feelings that I had as a result of my thoughts. The needs are the same: safety, security. My feelings of distress were because I was sure that those needs weren’t being met. The noise meant something bad was happening. I was certain that was true. The same noise, 10 years later, I felt more calm and relaxed because the meaning I made of the noise in my wall was that I was safe and warm. The noise itself, was the same.

inspiration, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 30, 2026observations, nonviolent communication, nvc, nnoticing Comments

I Almost Missed the Train!

I took the train to New York recently. Time of departure was 9:46am. On my ride to the train station there was an abundance of traffic, so my estimated time to arrive at 9:20am was more like 9:30am. Did I make the train? Or did I almost miss it? Or both? It’s all about obsesrvations.

inspiration, Communication, Relationships, MindfulnessTerrie LewineJuly 8, 2025train, observations, noticing, nonviolent communicaiton, communicationComment

Back to Basics

The benefits of going back to basics —every now and then. Marshall teaching his work is such a gift to us.

Mindfulness, inspiration, CommunicationTerrie LewineOctober 21, 2024observations, nonviolent communication, communication, relationships, therapy, therapy for women Comments

A Pile of Bricks

When is a pile of bricks just a pile of bricks? Always. The meaning we make of the pile of bricks is a perfect example of the importance of using simple observations when hoping for connection in relationships.

Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJune 25, 2024observations, nonviolent communication, relationships, communication, connection, therapy, couples counseling Comments

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