New Years Resolutions ~ Turning Intentions into Reality

I’m guessing your inbox, Instagram, blog subscriptions, podcasts are blowing up with ways for you to make your turn your New Years Resolutions in to reality.  Just like last year.

Do you wonder why it is such a challenge for most people to make their resolutions last?

I do.

New Year, New You. Why?

Every New Year you think about making resolutions.  You are going to be the new, better you?  

I don’t know, doesn’t that imply that there is something wrong with the old you?  Which is the you, you are right now.  

It is so easy to think there is something wrong with us.

Naughty or Nice? You Have Another Option

This kind of black and white thinking rules us.  We learn it from young.  You might get a gift from Santa if you are nice, be good or do what your parents want you to do.  

However continuing this practice of doing what someone else wants you to do, or ‘because it is nice’ (or good, or right) will only lead you to relationships filled with confusion and resentment.  

Holiday Haste + Holiday Waste ~ Be Mindful of your Relationships During the Holidays.

From Halloween through til New Years, we are bombarded with images of houses to decorate, parties to either perfectly host or joyfully participate in, hundreds of gifts to buy, including gifts to have in your closet so you can give a gift to someone you don’t know well enough to buy a real gift for yet have a gift for them if they happen into your home.  Don’t forget all these gifts require wrapping—thank goodness for gift bags and tissue paper.  Food shopping, traveling, organizing pet sitting, and the rest of it.

3 Tips to get you through all of your holiday festivities

Oh the holiday season… We love it and hate it all in the same breath.

Although the holidays are a time to be grateful for the people you’re bonded with for life, it can sometimes be difficult. The holidays bring together a lot of opinions and personalities which pave the way for awkward moments. Fortunately, I have a few tips to help you survive the uncomfortable conversations you may be about to have with family and close friends.

Weekend Regrets

Weekend Regrets

This week I have the opportunity to mourn some interactions I had over the weekend.  

What does that mean? 

It means that I had some experiences that I feel less than excited about.  In the moment they were a bit awkward.  I was feeling a bit confused, and disappointed, even a little sad in the moment.  Very aware that I wished ‘it’ was different.

Good Grief

Good Grief

When I was a very little child, I cried when I was upset.   I had such strong emotions, yet expressing them certainly didn’t bring me more understanding or the connection I deeply yearned for.  So I learned how to reign in my tears.

What About Sex?

Oooh!  A big question.  A complicated topic.  One that so rarely gets talked about with the curiosity, depth and sensitivity that it requires.

Sex can offer us some of the most pleasure and ecstatic experience possible.  It is also can be used to take someone’s power away, and create (in some cases) life long pain.

Awkward Conversations. Yes, you must have them.

There are a wide variety of what could be considered awkward conversations that couples and soon-to-be couples can have. In my opinion the sooner you have them, the more likelihood the relationship will work out.  What makes them awkward, of course, is complicated.  It depends on the people in the relationship, what they want, their individual communication skills, and communication compatibility as a couple.

Let’s start with this one.  

Speak Up! I Can't Hear Me. [part 1 of a series]

Have you been taught, either implicitly or explicitly, that speaking up or speaking out is bad?  Have you heard or somehow just know, that good girls don’t yell, good Christians don’t get angry, unless you have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all?  Have you been silenced in a group, waiting your turn to speak up and your turn never comes?  Have you been told that what you say and how you say it doesn’t have value?  Maybe it has been made crystal clear to you that you're too sensitive, and that your feelings aren’t valid nor are they important?