Recently I was visiting with a friend and we were having a lively discussion about something --I can’t remember what. In the middle of our conversation, he said to me, “Could you repeat that? I wasn’t listening.” The honesty of that statement was precious and frankly, funny to me. How many people would say that? How many people would lie and say something else, like “I didn’t hear you,” for fear of the repercussions of their honesty? Would you be offended?
Read MoreNonviolent Communication remains the only body of work (at least that I’m aware of) which encourages (insists?) on tracking the needs of everyone as being equally important. In my opinion this is the essential skill to embrace, no matter how egregious what we are seeing and experiencing is to us.
Read MoreI might enjoy being enveloped in a juicy hug when I do something that someone is grateful for. Yet, it isn’t true that I want a hug from just anyone. Anyway, this isn’t about hugging, this is about honesty and considering the needs of everyone equally important in relationships.
Read MoreThose of us who haven’t had our deep belonging needs met while growing up find it difficult to experience it well as an adult. Instead, we use the strategy of fitting in. Even at the cost of being seen for who we truly are. This can get very messy very quickly.
Read MoreAre you interested in finding love? Unless you are currently feeling resigned, I’m guessing you are a yes. Whether with a partner or inside your family relationships, friendships –anywhere really? You can find it almost everywhere.
Read MoreDo you find yourself wanting to shift or make a new agreement with someone, yet a sometimes subtle and sometimes booming voice takes over saying, “I said I would so I should.”? Maybe this creates more distance and disappointment than changing your agreements.
Read MoreI did a thing. We turned our clocks forward an hour and I didn’t miss a minute of sleep!
Read MoreA simple, yet robust thank you –only when it is absolutely true, is not a pleasantry, or good manners. It’s deep communication that serves the best of relationships.
Read MoreI don't consider myself a fan of my local teams (sorry). Yet when we are winning, all of a sudden I care. Why? Because my deep needs for belonging and inspiration and joy and celebration are being wildly met.
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