Posts in Family
Should I Stay or Should I Go?

One of the most difficult places people find themselves in is the question ‘have I tried enough?’ in my relationship.  Should I stay or should I go?  For many this question just spins inside their heads over and over, leaving them stuck. Feeling stuck and resigned, resentful and guilty, sad and angry.  And hopeless

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Sharing Power with your Kids

Sharing power with your children without punishment might seem scary because most of us are quite used to the power over method of negotiation.  And the power over in controlling our kids.  Yet, we didn’t like it when we were being raised, so we are determined not to say no to our kids.  We want them to like us, be our friends.  It turns out that either of these choices aren’t the best given your intentions.

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Ask for Impact, not Permission

In any kind of partnership, whether it is your significant other, friends, work colleagues or even parent/child relationships, I encourage asking for impact rather than asking permission. You no longer need permission. Perhaps in a healthy culture, you never did.

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It's a We Thing

One of the primary touchstones of compassionate consciousness is that we hold everyone’s needs dear. Meaning in our relationships we are considering solutions or strategies that meet the needs of all involved. It’s a we thing. I have found that this is a place where people get a bit stuck.

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Will Smith + Chris Rock ~ Perfect Teaching Moment

I watched what happened between Will Smith and Chris Rock on the Oscars. The exchange offers the most perfect classic opportunity to talk about the ideas behind Nonviolent Communication. My first pass at writing something was quite educational (and dry). I’m realizing I want to write about what is in my heart.

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