Why be grateful when the day (relationship, project, moment) just sucks? Because it changes everything.
You do not have to be pleasant and wear lovely yoga pants and burn incense to have a gratitude practice. Grumpy Gratitudes are just fine.
Read MoreDuring these times where we have almost nowhere to go, some people I check in with are finding that they don’t have anything to say. Doing the same things over and over, some without work, some with work, yet a sense of restlessness, boredom, malaise is setting in. People are losing enthusiasm. Friends and neighbors and clients are sharing that even if they have work, they don’t seem to want to do it. Getting dressed into something they haven’t slept in seems like a bit too much energy to expend since..well, why bother?
Read MoreThis morning, while doing morning chores, I was considering on all the ways people have been sharing that they have more time right now, and either are, or are not doing the things they wished they had time for —back when they didn’t actually have the time, remember just about 4 weeks ago? For those who aren’t —why aren’t you doing those things? What is in the way now? Is it the story you might be telling yourself, ‘well, I didn’t want the time this way!”
Read MoreWe have all been home now, in varying manners of quarantine for approaching a month. Some of you are home with your families. All day. Every day. In my experience, living with roommates or significant others —sharing space we call ‘home’ presents challenges in regular life. Add in these Corona Virus circumstances of being together ‘always’ in all ways (workplace, play space, rest space, workout space, possibly homeschooling space, sleeping space —what else?) while navigating a cultural story that our lives are in danger, monumental financial concerns, and the uncertainty of when this might end, you might find communication getting problematic.
Read MoreYour children are instantly navigating a new experience. Depending upon their age they don’t have the capacity to understand what’s happening in the same ways you do. For better and for worse. They don’t have the brain development to make meaning of what they are seeing and hearing. They exist more deeply on the feeling level. Not only are they trying to make meaning of the change in their lives, they are deeply impacted by you, the parents, their caregivers. In more ways that you might be thinking about. They are tracking on your every move.
Read MoreYou might think this is a blog on finding the upside of the corona virus lockdown that we are experiencing. Well it isn’t.It is the beginning of the story, yes. But it’s not the point. It is about what I always write about. How effective are you at being your own champion for getting your needs met?
Read MoreThis post is written by a friend. Alan Muskat. Alan is well-known as the Mushroom Man in Asheville, NC. He is a forager and takes thousands of people on walks through the woods. Alan and I talk often. We were talking about his business No Taste Like Home a few years back. In this conversation I remember him sharing something to me about understanding nature, the earth and foraging. It was then and remains one of the most profound wake-ups for me —living here in the city.
Read MoreThere are a few things I have become aware over many years of teaching and learning NVC and how to relate effectively with other people. One is that we want a script. I think it is one of the appealing things in this work. There is a structure.
Read MoreHow do you say maybe? My favorite way to say maybe: I hold off responding to an invitation when I am uncertain. At the moment I am convinced that it is better to not respond until I know one way or the other —meaning have a real answer.
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