It's Not My Fault

That’s correct. It isn’t. No matter what the topic. When people are talking about institutional and systemic inequity and racism and are asking you to reflect on your own privilege, you might hear blame. You might not like how you feeling hearing the word, especially how it relates to you, and resist. After all, you are progressive and want —possibly even have worked for civil rights. Having this conversation in the context of blame will be super challenging. Because it isn’t your fault. Yet you have contributed to the issue.

Corona and Kids. What Are You Saying?

Your children are instantly navigating a new experience. Depending upon their age they don’t have the capacity to understand what’s happening in the same ways you do. For better and for worse. They don’t have the brain development to make meaning of what they are seeing and hearing. They exist more deeply on the feeling level. Not only are they trying to make meaning of the change in their lives, they are deeply impacted by you, the parents, their caregivers. In more ways that you might be thinking about. They are tracking on your every move.

I Already Said That!

There are a few things I have become aware over many years of teaching and learning NVC and how to relate effectively with other people. One is that we want a script. I think it is one of the appealing things in this work. There is a structure.

Self Care, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 30, 2020blog, communication, needs, nonviolent communication, connectionComment

Maybe?

How do you say maybe? My favorite way to say maybe: I hold off responding to an invitation when I am uncertain. At the moment I am convinced that it is better to not respond until I know one way or the other —meaning have a real answer.

Self Care, Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 20, 2020blog, maybe, communicaion, friendship, freedom Comments

A Perfect Fit

It turns out I have been ‘forced’ to wear the wrong size shoe for the majority of my life. I choose to wear a size 9. Because I have a high arch and a wide foot, a 9 felt right-enough, meaning it would go on, although often tight across my foot, and bit too long. Long story short, it turns out an 8-1/2 wide is a perfect fit!

Health and Wellness, RelationshipsTerrie LewineJanuary 14, 2020blog, lifestyle, happy life, coachingComment

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Relationship Reality ~ Let’s Talk About It

Whether it is about daily practices or new skills, my personal writings offer you practical advice that you can implement right away. You are not alone in figuring out life and relationships. Learn from my experiences out there in the world making it all work, even when it isn’t!!

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