This word that I (and most NVC trainers) talk about endlessly. NEEDS. What are they? Why does it seem so difficult for some to ‘get’ it?
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When I play tennis, I say “I’m sorry” over and over. I rarely hit the ball over the net and into the court, often it is over the fence (I am pretty strong!). And each time, I say “sorry.”
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Oooh! A big question. A complicated topic. One that so rarely gets talked about with the curiosity, depth and sensitivity that it requires.
Sex can offer us some of the most pleasure and ecstatic experience possible. It is also can be used to take someone’s power away, and create (in some cases) life long pain.
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I was teaching yesterday and someone offered this poem as our 'Remembering', a way to start the class. A poem by Billy Collins (who apparently is famous), about a gift for his mother. I enjoyed it so much I decided to offer it here as well.
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Love and Compost. What do they have in common?
Everything?
Well, likely not everything. Let’s just see.
There are a wide variety of what could be considered awkward conversations that couples and soon-to-be couples can have. In my opinion the sooner you have them, the more likelihood the relationship will work out. What makes them awkward, of course, is complicated. It depends on the people in the relationship, what they want, their individual communication skills, and communication compatibility as a couple.
Let’s start with this one.
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Often we spend time in classes and practice groups discerning the difference between being angry or mad, from dropping more into your feelings and in discerning what is truly going on — feeling more sad, for example.
Let’s just take a break from that.
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Have you been taught, either implicitly or explicitly, that speaking up or speaking out is bad? Have you heard or somehow just know, that good girls don’t yell, good Christians don’t get angry, unless you have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all? Have you been silenced in a group, waiting your turn to speak up and your turn never comes? Have you been told that what you say and how you say it doesn’t have value? Maybe it has been made crystal clear to you that you're too sensitive, and that your feelings aren’t valid nor are they important?
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