Composting Love

Love and Compost. What do they have in common?

Everything?

Well, likely not everything. Let’s just see.

Awkward Conversations. Yes, you must have them.

There are a wide variety of what could be considered awkward conversations that couples and soon-to-be couples can have. In my opinion the sooner you have them, the more likelihood the relationship will work out. What makes them awkward, of course, is complicated. It depends on the people in the relationship, what they want, their individual communication skills, and communication compatibility as a couple.

Let’s start with this one.

Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineApril 18, 2018communication, healthy relationshipsComment

If Only it Were Different

Often we spend time in classes and practice groups discerning the difference between being angry or mad, from dropping more into your feelings and in discerning what is truly going on — feeling more sad, for example.

Let’s just take a break from that.

CommunicationTerrie LewineApril 17, 2018healthy communicationComment

Speak Up! I Can't Hear Me. [part 1 of a series]

Have you been taught, either implicitly or explicitly, that speaking up or speaking out is bad? Have you heard or somehow just know, that good girls don’t yell, good Christians don’t get angry, unless you have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all? Have you been silenced in a group, waiting your turn to speak up and your turn never comes? Have you been told that what you say and how you say it doesn’t have value? Maybe it has been made crystal clear to you that you're too sensitive, and that your feelings aren’t valid nor are they important?

Terrie LewineApril 4, 2018Comment

It was a Mad, Mad, Mad, Mad Night

Well, it happened. I got mad. At Steve.

What are you Telling Yourself?

How often to you take a breath and consider what you are thinking? Here's a little story about how doing it more might dramatically change your life for the better.

Self Care, CommunicationTerrie LewineMarch 13, 2018nonviolent communication, self-awareness, self-helpComment

I Want to Tell You How I Feel

In Nonviolent Communication classes we spend a whole bunch of time figuring out how to feel our feelings. How do we notice them? How to distinguish feelings from thoughts, games to discern one feeling from another. Practices to enhance our capacity to say what they are. We have sheets and cards and magnets and games. All so we can know what our feelings are.

And now you want to share them.

Communication, RelationshipsTerrie LewineMarch 5, 2018nonviolent communication, healthy communicationComment

What Are We Waiting For?

This past week I became aware of something I do. And it wasn’t the only time. I have done it quite a few times. Something happens and I instantly feel frustrated. First thing was to actually notice that I was upset (and in some weird way, needing a minute to admit it to myself). I think I often don’t want to be upset. So…here it is --this was my process. I wonder if you do this too?

Terrie LewineFebruary 21, 2018 Comments