Have you been taught, either implicitly or explicitly, that speaking up or speaking out is bad?  Have you heard or somehow just know, that good girls don’t yell, good Christians don’t get angry, unless you have something nice to say, don’t say anything at all?  Have you been silenced in a group, waiting your turn to speak up and your turn never comes?  Have you been told that what you say and how you say it doesn’t have value?  Maybe it has been made crystal clear to you that you're too sensitive, and that your feelings aren’t valid nor are they important?

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This past week I became aware of something I do.  And it wasn’t the only time.  I have done it quite a few times.  Something happens and I instantly feel frustrated.  First thing was to actually notice that I was upset (and in some weird way, needing a minute to admit it to myself).  I think I often don’t want to be upset.  So…here it is --this was my process.  I wonder if you do this too?

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Happily Ever After.

I believe this is actually possible.

I think what most people want is: Happily every moment from the second I meet you.

I believe this is rare.  Super rare.

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