When I saw this title on a blog post I read, delivered to me from one of my favorite websites – Food 52, I immediately thought - oh yes, this is what I say to people over and over about relationships.
I was teaching yesterday and someone offered this poem as our 'Remembering', a way to start the class. A poem by Billy Collins (who apparently is famous), about a gift for his mother. I enjoyed it so much I decided to offer it here as well.
Most people are super-enthusiastic when they come to my classes and hear what seems like poetry and expresses the Nonviolent Communication consciousness. They hear the compassion, the curiosity, the clarity and the strength that can be communicated ~ even in significantly difficult situations.
What are people really saying to you? You can use these barometers to help you understand what is important to the person you are speaking with --and also for yourself, when you might be confused.
Trust. Commitment. These are important elements in a relationship. I’m sure you will agree. But how does it look in a healthy relationship? That we may not agree on. Please read on.
To the disappointment of my trainer, I often read magazines while on the elliptical machine at the gym. A favorite is Real Simple Magazine. I like the pictures, quotes, suggestions and some articles, though I often find myself disagreeing with the advice given in the Life Lessons section. Here’s an example:
I have recently experienced the death of someone close to me. The suddenness of this loss reminds me how fragile life is.
My concerns, thoughts, and worries had certainly not been on this ‘healthy’ person. I had been preparing for others close to me to make this transition, contemplating how their passing would affect my life. Not Tom.
I just caught a commercial for Dayquil on television. It stars the quarterback of the last Superbowl Championship team New Orleans, Drew Brees, and his wife. I can (with a lot of mindfulness) make peace with superstars selling pharmaceuticals.