Healthy Relationships

Flopping Around in a Net

Not another goldfish story?! 

Yes and no.  Well, yes. 

One of my goldfish went over the last waterfall into the basin where the pump is.  It will eventually be covered up so s/he would not survive.  In order to save his/her life, I went in with the big net and caught it.  It was flopping in the net, obviously in distress. Even though I repeated, “It’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay, it’s okay”.   

In retrospect I was likely trying to calm myself, at very least in addition to the fish.

I was saving the fish’s life. Yet…

Dangerous Assumptions

In working with hundreds of people over the years, and of course being human myself, the issue of assumptions has come up again and again as a great source of disconnection and suffering.  We have explored some key assumptions that seem to be particularly troublesome.