What are people really saying to you? You can use these barometers to help you understand what is important to the person you are speaking with --and also for yourself, when you might be confused.
Read MorePeople often tell me that their biggest concern when hearing about Nonviolent Communication is that they can’t have their emotions. For some reason they think they can’t get mad anymore. I am here to say that it just isn't true!
Read MoreHow did you contribute to the situation you are unhappy about?
In my opinion it is one of the most empowering questions we can ask of ourselves. When we are in a situation that we aren’t so happy about, depending what it is, then I encourage you to consider this first.
Read MoreI am quite moved by all the #metoo’s I am reading on Facebook. So grateful that we have found an opening, a place to begin this conversation. I am hearing about years and years of aggression, defense, confusion, pain, shame, and rage.
I am experiencing this moment as women wanting to once again, emerge with all the power that the sacred feminine embodies. It is an emergency.
Read MoreRecently a football player said, “It’s funny to hear a female talk about ‘routes.’” His name is Cam Newton. I don’t know what team he plays for, or anything else about him. I don’t know his age, where he was raised or what his life experience was.
Apparently his comments cost him a great deal. He became an instant demon / enemy. Woman Hater.
Read MoreDeveloping a workshop for women yesterday I found renewed inspiration in a poem that changed my life years ago. Discovering the work of Starhawk, the novel Fifth Sacred Thing found its way to me through a friend. After reading it I remember buying copy after copy and shared the book with anyone who would listen. It was the first of many to wake me up.
Read MoreI bet you are wonder which letters they are?! Possibly A? It gets our alphabet started, gets you first in line at grade school if your name began with A. Or T because my name begins with T. E gets used quite a bit as well.
I am actually referring to two letters that I wrote (they were actually a series) of back and forth letters (they were actually email and texts).
Read MoreI spent this past week with my long time partner Steve. Both SuperGeeks for Nonviolent Communication we tend to talk about and philosophize about how to be, do and teach NVC a great deal of the time when we are together. A cool thing happened this visit.
Read MoreAre you in a relationship? With anyone? In reality we are in relationship with everyone we meet or even walk by. It is with some unspoken agreement that if you walk by someone that you do or don’t say hello (or make eye contact).
Let’s at this point just consider the important ones. Significant other, workmates, friends, business partners, family. Are you crystal clear about the roles you are each agreeing to? How do you know?
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