What are people really saying to you? You can use these barometers to help you understand what is important to the person you are speaking with --and also for yourself, when you might be confused.Read More
People often tell me that their biggest concern when hearing about Nonviolent Communication is that they can’t have their emotions. For some reason they think they can’t get mad anymore.
I am here to say that it just isn't true!Read More
How did you contribute to the situation you are unhappy about?
In my opinion it is one of the most empowering questions we can ask of ourselves. When we are in a situation that we aren’t so happy about, depending what it is, then I encourage you to consider this first.Read More
I am quite moved by all the #metoo’s I am reading on Facebook. So grateful that we have found an opening, a place to begin this conversation. I am hearing about years and years of aggression, defense, confusion, pain, shame, and rage.
I am experiencing this moment as women wanting to once again, emerge with all the power that the sacred feminine embodies. It is an emergency.Read More
Recently a football player said, “It’s funny to hear a female talk about ‘routes.’” His name is Cam Newton. I don’t know what team he plays for, or anything else about him. I don’t know his age, where he was raised or what his life experience was.
Apparently his comments cost him a great deal. He became an instant demon / enemy. Woman Hater.Read More
Developing a workshop for women yesterday I found renewed inspiration in a poem that changed my life years ago. Discovering the work of Starhawk, the novel Fifth Sacred Thing found its way to me through a friend. After reading it I remember buying copy after copy and shared the book with anyone who would listen. It was the first of many to wake me up.Read More
I bet you are wonder which letters they are?! Possibly A? It gets our alphabet started, gets you first in line at grade school if your name began with A. Or T because my name begins with T. E gets used quite a bit as well.
I am actually referring to two letters that I wrote (they were actually a series) of back and forth letters (they were actually email and texts).Read More
I spent this past week with my long time partner Steve. Both SuperGeeks for Nonviolent Communication we tend to talk about and philosophize about how to be, do and teach NVC a great deal of the time when we are together. A cool thing happened this visit.Read More
Are you in a relationship? With anyone? In reality we are in relationship with everyone we meet or even walk by. It is with some unspoken agreement that if you walk by someone that you do or don’t say hello (or make eye contact).
Let’s at this point just consider the important ones. Significant other, workmates, friends, business partners, family. Are you crystal clear about the roles you are each agreeing to? How do you know?Read More
Have you ever wanted to do something or thought things yet weren’t really able to take the action required? Until something happened and made it so you kind of ‘had to’?Read More
Many people come to me in hopes of finding ways to deepen their connection with loved ones, partners, family members, workmates, etc. So often they are confused thinking it is the other person who is creating the distance. I invite you to consider the ways you separate yourself from the people in your life, often with simple greetings, intended to connect.Read More
This election season seems to have been particularly trying. In ways that I do not remember. Of course, it also seems that my memory is not what it used to be. Why am I at the computer again?
Oh yes, this election has had and continues to have so much energy, it is pulling people, squeezing out the hard, built up apathy and inertia. A deluge of thoughts and feelings are being thrown around flooding the thoughtfields. I am experiencing it like some serious weather. A hurricane or a tornado of sorts.
Are you telling people what you think using language that masquerades your story as truth?
I believe the quality of your life depends on a few things, one being the language you use and the words you say. For that reason I offered you this question. I think with a few tweaks here and there in what you say, you will feel more free, more open, more empowered in your life.Read More
To the disappointment of my trainer, I often read magazines while on the elliptical machine at the gym. A favorite is Real Simple Magazine. I like the pictures, quotes, suggestions and some articles, though I often find myself disagreeing with the advice given in the Life Lessons section. Here’s an example:Read More
If you are on Facebook, you probably see many of the same quotes I do. They are meant to inspire us or make us laugh or cause us to see something in a different light. I’ve read this one a few times as it’s made the rounds, and each time I’ve felt a thud in my stomach.
My intuition tells me that this quote is more likely to keep people stuck than set them free. So I’d like to tease out what troubles me about it.Read More